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posted this comment on Edge's Honesty post, but then thought I'd slap it here too...
so I'm wondering... infidelity... that classified as something you have to lie about, or the act of sex with another? just askin'... if you TELL about sex with another, is it still 'infidelity' ?
clearly a subjective viewpoint, just curious how y'all see it
so I'm wondering... infidelity... that classified as something you have to lie about, or the act of sex with another? just askin'... if you TELL about sex with another, is it still 'infidelity' ?
clearly a subjective viewpoint, just curious how y'all see it
posted by MysticSpirit (Sass) at 10:07 AM
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I think part of infidelity...perhaps the biggest part, is the deception involved. If the primary person in your life knows and approves I don't think infidelity applies.
same here......I say N/A.
But let's say you have an open marriage and it is ok to experience others but you disclose when you do. If you don't disclose, that could be construed as infidelity.
If you tell in advance and have your partner's blessing, or an ongoing agreement, then I don't think that would be infidelity. If you have the sex first and then tell...well, yes that would be.
fascinating how we draw lines and choose definition huh? *grin*
Infidelity is the choice to be disloyal to your mate. By agreement, you may both agree to be disloyal to each other. The human sex drive is incredibly powerful and the line between lust and love is often blurred in our primitive minds. Some couples can accept an open marriage. More often than not, one spouse is agreeing to it because they feel there is no choice. If they do not accept it, they run the risk of having a dissatisfied spouse - or of losing the spouse altogether.
And yet, some couples appear to get along fine. As a former family law lawyer, however, I've watched how quickly such agreements can become misunderstandings. It's a slippery slope fraught with risks, but you are an adult, and the freedom to choose is one of our most closely guarded privileges.
And then again, you have to take what I say with a grain of salt. I've got trust issues right from the word go.
I am looking for some good infidelity resources for our ratings and review websites and believe it or not, yours popped up when I searched for "infidelity" blogs. After reading your posts, I can see why Google led me to your site. Even though it's not what I am looking for, I'm glad I stopped long enough to read your posts. Just thought you'd like to know….. thanks
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